The majority of guys seem to think that becoming a ‘womanizer’ is a desirable thing. But unfortunately they don’t quite seem to know how to get there.
Luckily, there are magazines like the German issue of Men’s Health and guys like a certain Lennie who claim to provide all the answers.
Here are the final four rules that are supposed to make guys way more successful with women. (If you missed the first part, you can find it here.)
6. ‘You mustn’t play the seducer but the admirer.’
Lennie says: Usually I do nothing to seduce women. I wait until they seduce themselves. I don’t own candles, but I own wine.
I say: First of all: you shouldn’t ‘play’ either one. If you are good at ‘seducing’ it will probably be as appreciated as true admiration.
A relationship (or even an evening) where a woman has to seduce herself (what does that even mean??) is nothing but sad.
7. ‘You should learn how to turn her on in bed and not do all the work.’
Lennie says: Women need to feel that they’re not in bed with a schoolboy. You have to find a compromise between being egoistic and a sex-slave.
I say: That’s actually the first thing I can agree on.
8. ‘Forget the ‘conquerer-demeanor’, be a discoverer.’
Lennie says: Women tell me: “Lennie, you find out what I want and you give it to me over and over again.”
I say: Finding out what a woman wants is definitely a good thing. (Even though you might not be as skilful as Mel Gibson in “What women want“.)
But repeating it over and over again? Come on guys – that’s just too easy.
9. ‘You need to know who you are and what kind of guy you are.’
Lennie says: The direct way to being a womanizer is to be a real man in harmony with yourself.
I say: There’s some truth in there. But you should keep in mind that being in harmony with yourself (as a guy) doesn’t necessarily mean being in harmony with women.
It’s always good to know who you are and what you want, but a relationship is also about merging two personalities together.
So you might want to be a little flexible too.
10. ‘Don’t be afraid.’ – That’s actually my rule.
Very often I notice that guys miss out on their chances because they’re shy or afraid. They take this whole thing to seriously.
The chances that you ‘lose’ when you approach a woman with a half-decent, but honest line like ‘Hey, I couldn’t help to notice you because you are…” aren’t too high.
Just go for it, guys. You might be pleasantly surprised.
And: Don’t listen to guys like Lennie who claim to have it all sorted out. They’re often the ones who don’t get the first thing about women.